Insight is the ability to gain understanding into difficulties faced by a person, family, community, or organization and can be one of the most valuable superpowers available to an educator both personally and professionally. The ability to truly understand ourselves and take notice of how we respond when an event outside our control goes wrong is an incredible lesson to share with the students who sit in front of us.
When I was named a Teacher of the Year for the state (Ambassador of Excellence), they had a professional video team come in to record both my teaching and talk to my students. Ironically, when they interviewed my students, there wasn’t one student who talked about how much content they learned in my class. Rather, they talked about how I helped them leave a better person than they came in. They stated that I modeled responsiveness and self-awareness showing them the importance of self-reflection and stepping back when faced with challenging situations. Bottom line, they learned more and were impacted not from the content I shared but rather from how I made them feel and my ability to both model and transfer insight. These comments were not only meaningful, they were striking to me, because this wasn’t exactly what I expected.
I now understand that insight drives resiliency and grows from the foundation of mindfulness that we cultivate personally. Physiology drives psychology. In other words, the body is always the precursor to the behavior. Therefore, being able to identify and recognize the physical distress that an uncontrollable event may spur, allows us to intercept a reactive response the brain may have and capitalize on the uncontrollable through our own self-awareness. Similarly, being able to step back from an experience and move beyond our most immediate reactions, allows us the opportunity to consider multiple interpretations of one event.
Think for a moment about a child who is dealing with her parents’ divorce. That child might try to reconnect her parents in a desperate attempt to maintain normalcy and connection with both parents. A parental separation is after all, a loss for any child. When the parents choose to separate despite the child’s effort to keep them together, she can blame herself. This self-blame in turn creates increased negative emotion to this already difficult event. When children are able to process experiences like this and develop the insight to know the separation is hard but not their fault or responsibility, their coping and adaptation process is activated. Think about how gaining understanding into difficult experiences has been helpful to you in your life.
What are you doing to create opportunities for the cultivation of insight in your students. And, what are you doing to foster your own insight and model that for those who sit before you?
Insight starts with your ability to step back and pay attention to your internal responses to external events (Mindfulness). Try some of the following exercises to cultivate your insight.